Two Lessons On Dealing With Disappointment

"It wasn't supposed to be like this!"

You worked out a good strategy and you did the work to make it happen but it just didn't.

The people you chose were all wrong and the grand plan just stalled and went nowhere.

It could have been a plan for business or for your personal life but the result is the same. Not the one you want.

You did all the things you could think of to make it happen.

You had the expertise to do what you wanted to accomplish once the plan was in action.

It just didn't work.

There is a lesson for us that we sometimes can fail to learn.  Several really.

Lesson One is this. 

We can't make someone want the things that we want. 

Even if those things would improve their life dramatically, by wanting the same things. It sucks, but there you go.  Identify the right people. Have a way to identify the wrong people.

Lesson: Find people who value the same things you do. 

The second thing we need to learn is this:

Good results don't follow according to logic. 

People buy the crappy thing instead of the fantastic one you have for them.  They make the decisions they make and they live with those decisions.  If they make the decisions that don't include what you offer, then you live with that.

If they buy the crappy product instead of yours then maybe they like that crappy approach. Did they like that crappy approach best?

Or was it the only one presented to them? 

We get results by what we did. Not what we 'could do'.

No matter how much better it would be...

Identify the actions that the competition is taking that you are not. Own it. Get smarter and take action of your own.

Lesson: If you don't ask, you can't get.